I asked my wife a serious question, but I am not sure as to whether she was serious or not....................

Sometimes the only way we can get our husbands to really hear what we are saying it is to tell them we are thinking about divorce. That's when you guys know we are serious. That is when you realize that maybe you have to rethink the way you are acting towards us. Yes - I think she was serious. She is not just trying to get you to be a better husband - she wants you to HEAR what she is saying. And yes - I also think that if help her and treat her better that it will help your marriage in the long run. It takes two people to make a marriage work. You both have to do things and take care of each other. Good luck.